A Tale of Two Divorces-Roiphe

Throughout Anne Roiphe's article, I thought about how lucky I am that I have never went through a divorce. I have a lot of friends who have divorced parents and I always think it's not fun when they have to visit their mom or dad on the weekends, and they aren't with both their parents everyday. Roiphe's mother should have divorced her husband. Instead she stayed with him and didn't live the life she deserved. Even though she stayed with him, it was not healthy for the child because seeing your parents fight everyday and not respect eachother, shows the child the wrong way to treat people. I think that because her parents had a bad marriage, she was bound to make the mistake as well. I agree somewhat with Roiphe in that marriages are not solely on loving your spouse. A marriage also has to do with living with that person, and having responsibilities with money and kids. Some people just rush into a marriage because they believe they are in love. They do not stop and think can I live with this person? Are we going to get a long with eachother and be able to take on the responsibilities together? Going through one divorce is hard, but knowing she went through two was even worse. Divorces affect everyone around you and especially your children. Although divorces affect your children negatively, you should not stay in a marriage if all you do is fight with your spouse and you constantly get abused verbally by your spouse.